Direct answers for newcomers about AA — membership, meetings, anonymity, and what to expect. All content is reviewed by the SFV AA Central Office before publication.
Getting Started
- Is AA free?Yes. There are no dues or fees for AA membership. AA is self-supporting through its own members' voluntary contributions and declines outside donations. You never have to pay to attend a meeting or to be a member.
- What is the only requirement to join AA?The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking. There are no applications, no forms, and no one decides whether you qualify. If you want to stop drinking, you are welcome in AA.
- Am I an alcoholic?Only you can decide. No one in AA will tell you whether you are or are not alcoholic. If drinking is causing problems in your life, or if you repeatedly drink more than you intend, AA may be worth looking into.
- Do I have to be sober to go to my first meeting?No. Being sober is not a formal requirement to attend an AA meeting. Many people first come to AA while still drinking, hungover, or unsure whether they want to stop. The only thing asked is that you not disrupt the meeting.
What to Expect
- What happens at my first AA meeting?You arrive, sit down, and listen. Meetings usually open with readings, then members share their experience. You are never required to speak. If asked, you can simply say, "I'm here to listen."
- Do I have to speak or share at a meeting?No. You never have to speak. Many newcomers just listen for their first few meetings, weeks, or months. If you do not want to share, you can pass or simply say you are there to listen.
- What is the difference between an open and a closed meeting?Open meetings are for anyone, including family, friends, students, or people who are simply curious about AA. Closed meetings are for people who have a desire to stop drinking or think they may have a drinking problem.
- Is what I say at AA anonymous and confidential?Anonymity is a core AA principle. Members are asked not to disclose who they see or what others share at meetings. It is a tradition of mutual trust, not a legal confidentiality guarantee like doctor-patient or attorney-client privilege.
Common Concerns
- Do I have to be religious to join AA? Do I have to believe in God?No. You do not have to be religious or belong to any faith to attend AA. AA is a spiritual program, not a religious organization, and it is open to people of every belief and of no belief.
- Will I have to stop taking my prescribed medication?No. AA does not tell anyone to stop prescribed medication. Medical decisions should be made with a qualified healthcare professional, not by AA members at a meeting.
- Is AA connected to any church, treatment center, or organization?No. AA is not affiliated with any religious denomination, treatment facility, political group, or outside organization. AA cooperates with many, but it is not controlled by or allied with any of them.
- Do I have to quit drinking forever before I can come?No. You do not have to quit before coming, and you do not have to promise "forever." Many people come to AA one day at a time, starting with just today.
Practical Info
- How do I find an AA meeting near me?You can search San Fernando Valley Area of Alcoholics Anonymous's meeting finder by day, time, location, and meeting type at /meetings/. You can also call 818-988-3001, and someone can help you find a meeting.
- Can I go to an AA meeting online?Yes. Many AA meetings are held online or in a hybrid format, so you can attend from home. Online and hybrid meetings are usually marked in the meeting finder with a link or instructions to join.
- What do the meeting abbreviations or meeting types mean?Meeting listings often use short codes or labels to describe the meeting format. Common examples include Open, Closed, Discussion, Big Book, Speaker, Step Study, Online, or Hybrid.
- How is AA supported financially if it is free?AA is self-supporting through voluntary contributions from its own members. The optional basket passed at many meetings helps cover basic expenses like rent, coffee, and literature. Contributions are never required.
Getting Involved
- What is a sponsor, and do I need one right away?A sponsor is an experienced AA member who helps guide another member through the program one-on-one. You do not need a sponsor at your first meeting. Many people find one after attending for a while.
- I think I have a drinking problem. What is the first thing I should do?Come to a meeting, or call first if that feels easier. You do not have to commit to anything, say anything, or be certain you are alcoholic. You can simply come and listen.
- Can family or friends of someone with a drinking problem come to AA?Family and friends are welcome at AA open meetings to learn about the program. For support focused on their own needs, Al-Anon and Alateen are separate fellowships made specifically for loved ones.
- What if I go to a meeting and it does not feel right for me?Try a different meeting. Every AA meeting has its own personality. If one does not feel like a fit, another may feel completely different. San Fernando Valley Area of Alcoholics Anonymous can help you find options.